Your First Christmas After Separation: Coping, Co-Parenting and Finding Your Feet

The first Christmas after a separation can feel daunting. Routines have changed, emotions are raw, and there may be uncertainty about what the festive period will look like. But with planning, support and gentle self-compassion, it is entirely possible to create a peaceful and meaningful Christmas, even if it looks different to the years before.

At Gullands, we support many people facing this transition, and we know how difficult it can be. Here is our practical advice on navigating your first post-separation Christmas with confidence and care.

Acknowledge that things will feel different and that’s okay

Trying to recreate the past can create pressure and sadness. Accepting that Christmas will change opens space for new traditions and positive memories.

Put clear arrangements in place early

Whether you are co-parenting or spending Christmas alone this year, clarity helps reduce stress. If you have children:

  • confirm dates, times and pick-ups early
  • avoid last-minute changes
  • share plans calmly and respectfully
  • focus on what makes the holiday special for your children

If you need legal support agreeing arrangements, we can help.

Consider creating new traditions

This can be something small: a new Christmas breakfast, a winter walk, a film night, or volunteering. New traditions can bring comfort and a sense of progress.

Look after your emotional wellbeing

Your first Christmas apart can bring unexpected waves of grief or loneliness. Try to:

  • spend time with supportive friends or family
  • plan activities on days you might find difficult
  • avoid comparing your Christmas to others
  • reach out for professional support if you need it

There is no “right” way to feel, only what’s right for you.

Give yourself permission to look ahead

Separation is the end of one chapter, but it is also the beginning of another. Once the Christmas season passes, many people find the New Year brings renewed clarity and direction.

If you are unsure about your next steps, a conversation with a family law solicitor can help you understand your options without pressure or judgement. Sunita Chauhan can be contacted at s.chauhan@gullands.com