Child Arrangements at Christmas: How to Create a Peaceful Plan That Puts Children First

For separated or newly separated parents, Christmas can feel like a logistical and emotional challenge. Questions around where children will spend Christmas Day, how time should be divided, and how to keep the experience positive can become sources of tension.

At Gullands Solicitors, we work with many families navigating these decisions, and one message comes through clearly: children benefit most when parents plan early, communicate clearly and keep the focus on stability.

Why planning ahead matters

Leaving Christmas arrangements until the last minute can lead to conflict, confusion, and stress for parents and children alike. Agreeing plans early creates certainty and allows children to look forward to the season without anxiety.

Options for sharing Christmas fairly

Every family is different, but common arrangements include:

• Alternating Christmas Day and Boxing Day each year
This gives both parents an opportunity to create special memories.

• Splitting the holiday period
For example, one parent may have Christmas Eve and Christmas morning, and the other Christmas afternoon and Boxing Day.

• Creating new traditions
Where travel or logistics make sharing days difficult, families often create their own unique celebrations on different dates.

Tips for keeping arrangements child-centred

  • Prioritise your children’s routines and emotional needs.
  • Communicate respectfully with your co-parent, ideally in writing.
  • Avoid asking children to “choose” between parents.
  • Be flexible where possible, especially if this is the first Christmas after separation.
  • Present a united message: children feel safest when parents cooperate.


When parents can’t agree
If discussions become difficult, getting early legal advice can help prevent disagreements from escalating. A solicitor can:

  • explain typical arrangements
  • help you understand your rights and responsibilities
  • assist in drafting a written agreement
  • guide you towards mediation if appropriate
  • support you in formalising arrangements if needed

We’re here to help you create a positive Christmas season

Christmas should be a joyful and secure time for children. If you need guidance on creating fair, workable arrangements or if talks have broken down then Gullands’ family law team can support you sensitively and constructively.

Sunita Chauhan can be contacted at s.chauhan@gullands.com